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Unprocessed grief is bigger than our individual stories.

Find out how embracing your relationship to fear of loss can better your relationships with others and yourself with this free excerpt of Grieving while Black from Zen Buddhist end-of-life caregiver Breeshia Wade.

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Grief is at the root of much more than the depression you feel when you receive terrible news.

Grief can look like anger, fear, guilt, or avoidance; it can obscure what you want and need; it can cause you to think “they gain” means “I lose.” 

Like many unprocessed emotions, unprocessed grief is a kind of psychic debt that we ignore and allow to accrue interest, passing from generation to generation.  And when too many people are carrying too much debt, it is not only individuals who suffer: communities and society suffer as well.  Systems of oppression are composed of grief–not just the recognizable grief of their victims, but the unexplored grief of their enacters as well.

We each have the tools we need to create societal change:  looking grief in its face, and choosing to pay its price ourselves.

You have the power to actualize the change you imagine, starting with how you show-up in your own life. Starting with how you engage your relationship to grief.

This glimpse into my book introduces you to how your unexplored relationship to impermanence and fear of loss fuels systemic oppression. We will take a look at your relationship to power, accountability, and boundaries, and point to the long-term work that needs to be done to address systemic trauma.

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About Me

Breeshia Wade earned her B.A in Comparative Studies in Race and Ethnicity, with a focus in Creative Writing. Her experiences witnessing complex trauma and loss led her to an M.A. from the University of Chicago in Religious Studies and then two years at a Buddhist chaplaincy training at Upaya Zen Center.

Breeshia Wade